Why Bruce Jenner Matters

Two Kardashian related posts in a row? Yes, it’s true. Except this one has a lot more substance and weight to it.Bruce

Rumors are swirling around Bruce Jenner given his new appearance- long hair, nail polish, possible lip injections. It all points to one unconfirmed occurrence: he’s transitioning into a woman. According to Kim, he’s on a “journey” and it’s “his story to tell.” That’s probably the first time Kim has ever kept her mouth shut, but bravo for her not spilling the beans. It is his story to tell, which is why if this is true, it is so much more important for it to be told.

Whether we like it or not (mostly not), the Kardashians are global celebrities. They have a lot of power (if you can call it that) and influence on people, which is still mind baffling. Yet if Bruce transitions, they collectively have the power to globally address the topic and give the Trans community possibly their biggest awareness ever.

Over the past year, the Trans community is finally getting a voice- Transparent just won Best Comedy at the Golden Globes while Jeffrey Tambor won Best Actor in a Comedy for his portrayal of a father finally becoming who he was meant to be. Laverne Cox from Orange is the New Black is so lovely and even graced the cover of Time Magazine. Yet for every positive story there is one like Leelah Alcorn’s. We have a lot more ground to tackle so that kids aren’t committing suicide out of fear and that ignorant people aren’t spewing hatred.

timeIf Bruce Jenner gets a new reality show, which is rumored to happen, people will have the opportunity to watch his transition and understand the struggle and joys associated with it. If this happens, he and E! really have a moral responsibility to handle this properly and not just try to exploit this for fame and money. If done correctly, people all around the world who may not understand what it means to be Transsexual will have the opportunity to see it and maybe, just maybe, think that if the Kardashians are okay with it then they are okay with it too.

This would be the first time the Kardashians’ approval of something would mean volumes. This would be the first time I support something they care about. This would be the first time I would watch the show and think, “this is good.”

Let’s all hope that if true, Bruce Jenner and the Kardashian clan open the door to something wonderful. And if it’s true, all the power to you, Bruce.


Not Amused Musings

Like the phoenix rising from the ashes, Murphy’s Musings is back!

I wish there could be a better reason for prompting me to return, such as an epiphany in a dream where Tina Fey said, ‘”you can do it!” but alas it’s much less glamorous. In fact, it’s probably the worst motivator in the world. My return is because of Kim Kardashian.

KK coverYes, that talentless, attention seeking, wife of that big mouthed rapper is the reason I decided to blog again. Why? Because when I found out yesterday that she has a book coming out, I momentarily questioned whether or not to jump in front of the next arriving train on my commute home. Hearing that news hurt as much as John Boehner’s skin after a bout of tanning, but more on that later.

Clearly anyone can get a book deal these days. Well, anyone who lacks talent but has a huge following of mindless sheep that are eager to dish out money. Her book, appropriately titled Selfish, is a collection of selfie photos of herself. Judging by this cover, the photos are sure to be heavy on skin and narcissism and lacking clothes and decency.

These are supposed to be “never before seen” photos but let’s be real- no matter the location, angle, background, additional people in the picture, it’s all been seen before. Once you have a sex tape, its all been seen and cannot be unseen.

How have we reached this point in time where someone like Kim Kardashian continues to be glorified in every possible way, yet people working for the greater good in the world are not? Do we all need to have a sex tape, failed marriages to sub-par NBA players, plastic surgery, and terrible reality shows with our equally terrible families in order to be deemed important in pop culture?

This Kardashian trend is as perplexing as John Boehner’s face- I told you we’d get back to him. After last night’s State of the Union, I can’t help but wonder if tax payer dollars are being used to keep his skin Oompa Loompa orange. And I wonder if someone like John Boehner is just as damaging to society like Kim Kardashian? All we can do is hope he won’t use his powers for evil and take away all the Wonka candy in the world. I would not be amused.


2013 in Review

With only 2 days left of 2013, now is an opportune time to look back at the days gone by and reminisce about some of the year’s most memorable moments:

The government shut down

We had to say goodbye to Walter White and his Heisenberg ways

Lorde arrived on the airways. Thank the Lord!

Miley Cyrus twerked her way into everyone’s mind whether they wanted it or notMiley

Paula Deen traded in pounds of butter for racial slurs.

There’s a new Pope. And new iPad Air, iPhone 5C/S, Google Glass, and Xbox One.

Kim Kardashian gave birth to her first child, North West, who will grow up to be the most egotistical person in the world.

George Zimmerman got acquitted.

Chris Brown is still a terrible human being.

But Sheryl Sandberg is awesome.

Beyonce blacked out the Super Dome after her half time show in February and then left people feeling like they had blacked out when she dropped a secret album in December. #BowDownBitches

What did the fox say?.. no really, what did the fox say?

And the most important thing to take into 2014…

Justin Bieber is retiring!

Cory Monteith: Gone Too Soon

When I woke up yesterday to the news that Cory Monteith had died, I was in a state of shock. Initially, I couldn’t process the words I was reading- it just had to be a joke, a dream, or a really bad plot in a show I was watching. Cory couldn’t be dead, he was only 31!

coryExcept unfortunately he is, and while we don’t yet know the cause of death, chances are that it was alcohol and drug related. Cory never shied away from his troubled past, which came into light even more so lately when his relapse sent him back to rehab in April. To know what obstacles he overcame- dropping out of high school and being an addict at 19- and then turning his life around and becoming the adorable boy on a hit TV show and ultimately dating his beautiful costar, shows a journey that was cut far too short. It’s just a shame that these demons most likely got the best of him in the end and that he wasn’t able to persevere.

This hurts on an even deeper level for me because of my personal feelings for him. I met Cory once and while it was just a press event and I surely didn’t make an impact on his life, his goofy grin and bedroom eyes will forever be etched in my mind just like a scene on Glee that I still manage to know inside and out. Anyone who knows me knows of my love of Glee, mostly the cast more so than the show at this point. If you didn’t know that, all you had to do is look above at the banner of this blog to see the faces of Dianna Agron, Lea Michele, and Cory staring back at you. Except now I can’t even look at a picture of Cory without filling with sadness because I know that these pictures will never happen again in the future.

The future of Glee also seems bleak. Even though Finn didn’t have as large of a role in the fourth season, he was still an integral part of the show. Even without him, how can we all sing along without feeling sad? How can we watch without thinking that he’s gone? How will Lea Michele go to work every day knowing that her boyfriend is dead? I personally would not be able to function.

I feel like Cory was a part of my extended family, and that may sound deranged, but Glee was a major part of my life for reasons that not everyone will understand. Glee had the power to bring a friend and I even closer, and yes, we may have become borderline obsessive with our feelings but Glee was something that just made sense to us. In our own alternate reality, Cory/Finn Hudson would be the man she married and the friend I turned to in times of need. And now all we have left is the fantasy, that truly cannot come true now.

None of this feels real. And maybe it’s best to continue pretending that it’s not because I want to look back at Glee and remember happier times. Times when the fantasy was alive; inspired that there was hope for better days on the horizon. It may all sound crazy but it’s something that I will always hold near and dear to my heart, just like Cory.

Cory Monteith
May 11 1982 – July 13, 2013

Forever yours, faithfully


Brave, Bold, Beautiful

When I was 13, I developed a fascination with Angelina Jolie. Her beauty, talent, intelligence, and sometimes even peculiar behavior made her intriguing and I was hooked.

ImageI’ve been a fan through Lara Croft, the Billy Bob days, the adoptions, the Brangelina “scandal”, the flop of Alexander, and all humanitarian actions overseas. I’ve bought countless magazines she was on the cover of, read her book numerous times, and own 99% of her movies. I’ve passionately defended her name to anyone who bashed her in my presence and longed for the day when we would be friends. Yes, I know that last part is a little crazy.

I’ve seen her in person three times and actually met her twice. To meet someone I idolized and feel her aura and warmth in person is something I will never forget. While those encounters were unmemorable to her, they were life-changing for me.

Through all of the confusion of my adolescent days, Angelina Jolie was figuratively there to remind me that it’s okay to follow your own path; to be who feels right to you. In some ways, I’ve always admired her like a mother, which is not meant to be an insult to my own mother. Angelina just spoke to me and helped me become the person I am today. Some people may not understand why or how that’s possible, but it’s true and the most important thing that she’s taught me is that I don’t have to explain. I can just be me.

That’s why reading her editorial in the New York Times today shook me to my core – it felt so real, like an extended part of my family just went through something traumatic and all I want to do is offer hugs in support. Except she’s not a victim by any means – she’s a hero. Her willingness to have a preventative double mastectomy to protect not only herself, but her children, is so courageous and inspiring. To then reveal it to the world as a way to tell women that they have options is even more incredible:

I choose not to keep my story private because there are many women who do not know that they might be living under the shadow of cancer. It is my hope that they, too, will be able to get gene tested, and that if they have a high risk they, too, will know that they have strong options.

Life comes with many challenges. The ones that should not scare us are the ones we can take on and take control of.

I’m sure there will still be hateful critics who will take this opportunity to continue to bash her and call her names. To them I have one thing to ask: how brave are you? Are you brave enough to undergo this kind of procedure? Would you do something so invasive on the chance of prolonging your time with your family? Would you do this when working in such a vain and shallow industry? Would you even consider it? I highly doubt it.Image

Her bravery has touched my soul and brought me to tears on a crowded train during rush hour. As a woman I salute her. As a fan, I support her even more. My admiration and love for her has now lasted for 13 years and today, I am so proud to say that I am a fan. Even if I wasn’t, today would have changed that because only a heartless person could deny her bravery.

Thank you for everything, Angelina. Just thank you.

We Are Never Ever Becoming Friends

Taylor Swift and I will never be friends.

This isn’t because the chances of us meeting is out of the realm of possibility. She surely dates enough people to eventually know someone who knows someone who I know.

Nor will our lack of friendship be because of my distaste of her music. I hate to admit it but I am still obsessed with “I Knew You Were Trouble” and do shamefully like songs like “Love Story” and “You Belong with Me.” Yeah, I said it. This would probably put us in friend territory, or at least acquaintances.

But the real reason we will never be friends is because she doesn’t know how to take a joke and proceeded to bash Tina Fey and Amy Poehler. No one takes a stab at them and gets away with it!

In the latest issue of Vanity Fair, Swift addresses the joke that was made by Fey during the Golden Globes that she should stay away from Michael J. Fox’s son. If she didn’t want her dating life to be public fodder then maybe she should learn how to keep all her boyfriends a secret and not buy houses near them, or write songs about them.

For Swift to go ahead and make a comment like this is just plain rude:

“You know, Katie Couric is one of my favorite people because she said to me she had heard a quote that she loved that said, ‘There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.'”

ImageIt’s ironic that Katie Couric was able to enlighten Swift with this quote by Madeleine Albright. Couric was really doing a great job of helping a fellow woman when she inadvertently contributed to the downfall of Sarah Palin on national television by not sensing the duress Palin was under at thinking of a newspaper she read. (Note: I do not support Sarah Palin in any way, shape, or form other than pure entertainment value which resulted in a great Halloween costume in 2008).

I think that Swift is just in a constant quest to play the victim- that’s why she writes songs about unrequited love, heartbreak, and wanting to appear like the bigger person. Naturally she would want to try to bring down Fey and Poehler like every other person she has let her in life briefly because she uses this all as a muse.

If she ever writes a song about mean girls, I will certainly not find myself singing along to it or watching remix videos of goats and motion activated paper towel dispensers with it because at the end of the day, Fey and Poehler are the best. And if they’re going to hell, I can’t wait to see them there.


Girl on Fire

Lena Dunham is on fire. Not only does she have a hit TV show that is a perfect portrayal of the confusion of post-collegiate life and have a book on the way, but she keeps winning awards. First there were her Golden Globe wins for Best Actress and Best Comedy. Then last night came her Writer’s Guild win for Best New Series. Between those two events, her boyfriend won some Grammy’s but that’s irrelevant. Did I mention she’s on the cover of this LenaRollingweek’s Rolling Stone?

Every week, Girls just seems to get better and better. I find myself desperately wanting to talk to friends about what happened, about how I can relate, and how for a second, it makes me feel like I’m not alone in my confusion. But then I remember that this is fiction and I’m not really Marnie because Marnie is actually Allison Williams who has a famous dad and famous friends. But for those 30 minutes, I am every one of those girls.

I would love to sit down and ask Lena just how she does it. How does she know how much life can suck when everything is going so fantastic for her? Because really now: Marnie and Jessa are messes, Hannah is drifting along, and Shoshanna is an innocent flower that’s most likely about to be ripped from the ground and float into the abyss. That’s all a true testament of Lena’s writing skills- she’s always able to churn out crap for her characters yet be walking on sunshine in real life.

I keep hoping that one night I’m going to casually run into Lena in Williamsburg where I will stand out for not being hipster enough and she’ll be like, “You’re a fish out of water, I’m going to make you a character on Girls.” And then I will proceed to squeal like a flamingo and she will walk away. Yeah, that’s exactly what would happen. At least then I’d have a story to tell.